“You're worthless”

Porn tells people that they're worthless in several subtle ways. First, there are the lies that porn tells to those who've viewed it over a period of time: you can't ever quit. You're a hopeless case. Maybe you've tried over and over to quit. You feel helpless and stuck in a cycle of guilt and shame.

You hate the isolation of porn. You hate how you look at people as objects to be used for your pleasure. You hate how you spend hours of your life glued to the screen. You need to know that there's a biological reason you keep turning back to porn. You can conquer it with the right tools and help.

Partners of porn users also struggle with feelings of worthlessness. When one partner views porn, the other partner often feels worthless in a few significant ways — this is part of betrayal trauma. They wonder: Why am I not enough for my partner?

Very few of us look like airbrushed porn star models. Instead, we actually deserve to be loved for who we are, imperfections and all. And we know something else porn won't tell you: YOU are amazing, and your one and only life matters.

Once you know the lies of porn, you are empowered to defeat them with the truth. You can escape the crushing shame and feelings of worthlessness. You can become who you were meant to be.